When it comes to being abused, hurt, or betrayed, if we refuse to surrender our hurt and pain to God, we risk allowing that person to abuse us again. Who else could release the healing power of canceling the debt that we feel is owed to us? Did they ask for forgiveness? Did they repent of their sin against us? If so, is it easier to forgive them than what we call “unilateral forgiveness?” Nevertheless, forgiving when the person doesn’t acknowledge what they’ve done serves to free us from being crippled by their abuse.